I am Fatima Ingles, and I am FREEDOM FIT.
I am …
An empowerment warrior
And a Freedom Fit crusader
How did I get here?
I grew up with 4 adorable (sometimes not so adorable) younger sisters and a dedicated and loving mother.
Our childhood was colourful to say the least … I witnessed and lived with the effects of domestic violence at the hands of men from a very young age.
I always vowed never to live that life when I was an adult.
As a young girl I dreamt of getting married, having children and living happily ever after…
It was my FAIRYTALE!! But, that is exactly all it was…a fairytale! In every sense of the word…
Because I held on to this unrealistic desire for so long I endured A LOT!!!
So when I realised the 15 year relationship with my husband and father of my 3 gorgeous little boys was an abusive one I finally decided to get out!
At 30 I had what I call an epiphany – I saw myself at 50, with a husband (who I very much loved) still treating me disrespectfully (hey, after 15 years I could not see it ever changing) and three children that were now grown men…Grown men that believed it was normal…expected or even worse…that is was ACCEPTABLE to treat the women in their lives the way they had witnessed me being treated, then having their own children, sons that would continue this unacceptable behaviour and daughters that would EXPECT and ACCEPT this type of treatment by their own partners!… The ripple effect was ENORMOUS!!!
It was at this moment I made the decision to save my life and that of my boys from the fate I had so clearly seen for us should something not change!
This decision to save our lives is the one that very nearly cost me my life. My husband took his own life and almost ended mine!
5 months later I moved away from the place I had called home all of my life, I left my family, my friends, my support network and everything that had been safe and comfortable to me for so long. That environment had become toxic to me and I could see no way that I would recover, heal and be able to find peace and happiness.
I often asked what terrible thing must I have done to have all this happen to me?
One day along my journey I decided that I would no longer be a victim… I was now a SURVIVOR!
I chose not to live my life as a victim being angry, revengeful and blaming the world for my situation, obstacles and challenges that seemed to never stop and were relentlessly HAPPENING to me.
I discovered FAITH, FITNESS and FOOD…
I learnt the AWESOME power of using these 3 F’s as tools in my life & discovered my true inner strength.
I became the handywoman of the most valuable house I would ever live in – my mind, body and soul … setting about fixing, mending, repairing, ripping down walls, digging up foundations and rebuilding my life. My tools of the trade? The 3 F’s… FAITH, FITNESS and FOOD!
I became FREEDOM FIT!
I want to share with you my mantra for life…I want to inspire you to find your own mantra that you will truly live every day by.